How to Deal With Unwanted Attention – Advice for Solo Female Travellers

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How I Avoid/Deal With Unwanted Attention While Travelling Solo

How to Deal With Unwanted Attention – Advice for Solo Female Travellers

This is a very spur of the moment post prompted by someone asking for advice (on this Facebook group). They wanted to know how to avoid unwanted attention/advances from men as solo female travellers. Unfortunately there are a few creepy guys out there and they can be a bit of pain in the bum. Also if you’re anything like me, sometimes you just wont be in the mood. Even if you’re being chatted up by the nicest of guys! So having a way to deflect their advances comes in handy.

Of course, I do wish there was no need to have this conversation but c’est la vie. It’s better to discuss and be prepared then pretend it doesn’t happen. But it definitely shouldn’t put you off being solo female travellers. So here are my tips on avoiding/dealing with unwanted attention from men as solo female travellers. I hope you find it helpful! If you have any tips of your own, please share them in the comments.

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How I Avoid/Deal With Unwanted Attention While Travelling Solo
INDIRECT ATTENTION

Ignore It – I know this is rubbish but I really have no other suggestions when it comes to catcalling, hissing, clicking, pats on the bum etc. The best thing to do is point blank ignore. I realise it can be difficult. I found it difficult to cope with all the unwanted attention I received backpacking around Morocco. It was pretty relentless. However, most of the time it was just annoying and they didn’t do me any harm.

Wear a Wedding Band – This may seem a bit much but in a lot of cultures men don’t act around married women the same way they do around single women. In fact now that I think about it, I’d say it’s the same with western cultures too. If you are worried really consider wearing a wedding band. It definitely deters attention.

How I Avoid/Deal With Unwanted Attention While Travelling Solo
DIRECT ATTENTION

Speak Another Language – My go to solution when approached is pretending I don’t speak English. Honestly! If I would rather be left alone I’ll reply in German and look confused/sorry. “Ich spreche keine Englisch” works wonders. 50% of the time they loose interest immediately. The rest know that I’m taking the mick but are too embarrassed to continue trying. Of course, if they then reply in German or have already heard me speaking English I have to move on to my second escape technique.

Pretend You Have A Boyfriend – If pretending not to speak English fails my next go to is telling a little lie… “sorry, I have a boyfriend”. I try not to be presumptuous so only say this if they want my number or to join me etc. But again, from experience that is all it takes for them to loose interest.

Female Backup – Usually it doesn’t get to this as they’ll have already taken the hint, but not always! Guys can be persistent when they like what they see. In this instance I would look to nearby females for help. We should all have each others backs. Be it to a group of girls in a hostel or an assistant in a shop, explain the situation. You might end up making some friends in the process too!

How I Avoid/Deal With Unwanted Attention While Travelling Solo
PREPERATION

Expect it – Being blonde, blue eyed and pale means in some countries drawing attention to myself is unavoidable. I expect to be stared at in these situations (especially when looking ridiculous in a snorkel). Most people are just curious. And I would never consider curiosity a bad thing even if it does feel a little weird.

Dress Appropriately – What I mean by this is dress respectfully of other peoples religions and cultures. I was expected to cover my shoulders a lot of the time in SE Asia. Especially when entering holy buildings or walking around temples and ruins. Following these customs stops unwanted attention and is just the right thing to do. I was once told off by a man for having my shoulders out in the Notre Dame. I didn’t think to cover them. It was silly of me because despite being very touristy, it is still a church.

Research Local Customs – In some countries, for example Japan, making eye contact with strangers is considered forward. In others a smile is considered impolite. Even just being an unaccompanied woman is strange in a lot of countries. So understanding the situation you are in and the meaning behind what you’re doing is always good.

Be Sensible – Travelling alone requires sense and I know you guys have that already so I won’t say any more!

36 Comments

  1. All these tips are perfect. One I employ a lot of the time is ignoring the unwanted attention, another would be pretending I don’t speak English and also talking about a boyfriend. I also always try to dress in a way that makes me fit in (as much as possible). And I agree, it’s important to show respect to other cultures by dressing appropriately, particularly in South East Asia! It’s great you’ve posted this so other female solo travellers can see what other things to try to avoid this attention!

  2. This is such a VALUABLE post! It is so hard to travel alone as a female sometimes because of all of the stuff that happens. Being catcalled sucks and we’re in the 21st century, come on… I actually thought about wearing a fake wedding band! Having a female backup is important – we help each other out! Seriously? A man telling you off for exposing your shoulders!?! Not cool! Thank you for sharing these tips.

    Nancy β™₯ exquisitely.me

  3. Oh! These are great tips! Speaking another language or pretending you don’t know English, seems to be working great!
    Thing is we just get afraid of anything instantly! If we don’t get afraid, speak with good attitude could be a solve either way! But we hardly do that!
    Bad always gets on our head because we fear them! What you say? Anyways, these are really helpful tips!

    Xoxo Babita
    http://travelhues.com

    1. Hey Babita, I get what you mean! I do always give people the benefit of the doubt and find it super easy to make friends when I’m travelling because everyone is so open and chatty πŸ™‚

  4. Good advice! Luckily I have not been to countries where I am harassed. Though I have also only traveled to European countries. Usually I always try to look casual and comfortable, rather than wearing anything too revealing, only because I hate attention for anyone. :p

    -Emily http://www.coatandcoffee.com

    1. Thanks Emily πŸ™‚ Me too, especially when backpacking! Lugging a rucksack around in revealing clothing would be so much effort XD

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